• Relationships Take Work

    Beautiful Picture

    The other morning my husband and I were rushing. As always. I’m betting that you can relate. I was finishing up my make-up while mentally preparing for my first meeting. And there he was, bending down to give me his goodbye kiss. This time of morning is always a highlight. He left – and it struck me. I hardly remembered that kiss, and while I thought I’d said “I love you,” I wasn’t sure. I thought for a second, literally dropped my make-up to the floor, and ran down the stairs, catching him as he pulled out of the drive. His handsome face was priceless as I ran to the…

  • Relationship Preparation

    10 Marriage Preparation Tips You Must Know

    As a thirty-three year happily married woman who has counseled unhappy couples, here’s a marriage preparation tip: don’t overrate making a commitment in a relationship. But because I want you to be happy, I’m going to share some positive relationship advice. If you’re single and want to get married, by all means, enjoy your singleness while preparing mentally for marriage. Regardless of your relationship status, these tips will prepare you for a better life. And, who doesn’t want that? #1. Get to Know Your Spouse Back in 1991, my husband, Bobby Martin, and I formed a professional Top Alcohol Funny Car drag racing operation culminating in an NHRA US Nationals…

  • Relationship Preparation

    Is it Time to Break Up?

    We watch scary movies and know when to shout at the dumb girl who goes into the basement to investigate that noise. We revel in her stupidity and feel superior. If it were us, we assure ourselves, we wouldn’t be so foolish. Sure, we would. Funny thing about life, it’s so easy to view it from the outside. Love can be the same, don’t you think? Others look at our horror movie and just know we need to end the relationship. But we don’t know and we just continue down   the   steps   to   the   basement. But, is it time to break up? I’ve ended more…

  • Relationship Advice

    Backup Singers

    Kidd Rock was rockin’ it at a live concert on TV the other day. (Puns are always intended here.) He and his band were Intense. Fans were singing along loudly and dancing with their hands in the air. Who was striking, though, was a particular backup singer. She did what backup singers do, but her dancing and singing were outside the norm. Honestly, without her, that concert wouldn’t have been the same. She added color and love. I think there are backup singers in our life, too — people who encourage and people who discourage. People who hold us up and people who take us down. And they affect our…