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Get On The Same Side
When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row. Ann was from Durham, North Carolina, and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…
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Do You Have a Transactional Relationship? 4 Ways to Love Without Expectations
Setting expectations in a relationship is a subject that isn’t talked about much, but it is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. Fortunately, there’s a solution: love without expectation. Let’s drive into what makes a transactional relationship fail and 4 ways to love your partner without expectations. Relationships Take Work At a drag race my husband and I were sponsoring, a businessman’s wife watched as one drag racer Kyle tore apart the bottom end, checked and replaced bearings. She observed how Mike, another racer took off the valve covers, check the pushrods, and set the valves. She kept her eye on yet a third racer, Larry who tore…
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Healing Rain On Barren Land – My Story of Infertility
I always dreamed of being married and having children. My husband had similar dreams. Once Bobby and I married, we waited to start a family. Our goal was to further our careers. Racing is an all-consuming passion, and it takes from you as much as you give it. Bobby was passionately pursuing his dream – the one that God gave him as a young child. I essentially had two jobs – my job in the corporate world and as Business Manager for the racing operation. We delayed parenting, but finally came the day when we agreed to put aside the birth control. The months and years passed. No baby. I…
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Two Worst Days in Bed
Bobby and I have spent the whole day in bed together twice. Neither was for a romantic reason, but both resulted in romance. I’ll share the other story at the end. This time was in 1997 and was the day after one of our worst days racing. When we decided that we were going funny car racing, Bobby called Harry. Harry was an acquaintance at the time but became Bobby’s mentor and in many ways, just like a dad. He was an NHRA national record holder and knew his stuff. He gave Bobby advice like “Sit in a funny car with the body down first. You’ll know right away if you…