• Life Advice,  Relationship Advice for Men

    Chris Rock Rocked It

    By Bobby Martin So if you were Chris Rock, what would you have done?  This has been one of the biggest topics of discussion in the country this week.  I would like to weigh in on this.  I think Chris Rock rocked it. Here’s why.  Restraint demonstrates much more strength and power than retaliation.  He didn’t even raise his hands.  And he didn’t say anything he would have to take back.  One commentator on Fox News, who happens to be black and in the same age range as Chris and Will, said something to the effect that if someone ever hit him, he’d fire right back.  That’s where he draws…

  • Christian relationship advice,  Relationships Take Work

    How to Keep the Spark Alive

    I was blessed to be featured in UpJourney recently; I contributed to an article entitled What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate. Afterward, someone posted an intriguing comment on my social media about it. I love all of your comments, and we read every one, no matter where you post them. His statement got me thinking about how to keep the spark alive in our relationships. So he said: “I don’t really buy the soulmate thing…Maybe a relationship…is like a pair of work boots. Awkward the first couple times you wear them. But just before they are about to go to their eternal reward they get really comfortable.” I laughed really…

  • Relationship Advice

    Why Should I Care About Kim and Kanye’s Story?

    Please see the update at the bottom of the article. So, my publicist said that I should write about the current situation between almost-divorced Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. Mentally, I facepalmed. I’m on a strict gossip diet. Like, if gossip were food, my body fat percentage would be 4%. (Oh, if only gossip were food.) Why should I care about Kim and Kanye’s story? But she knows me, and I trust her. So, I started reading, and believe me; I had to do a lot of reading to get caught up. I get it now. Now, I don’t know the details of what’s happening. Most of what gossip mags…

  • Relationship Advice

    It’s Harder to Receive Than to Give

    I almost dropped a Hail Mary pass this week. I know, I’ve never caught a football in my life! But it’s the perfect metaphor for what happened with my husband this week. I ran smack into the realization that it’s harder to receive than to give. In a 1975 playoff game, the Dallas Cowboys were down 14 to 10 against the Minnesota Vikings. With only twenty-four seconds left on the clock in the fourth quarter, Cowboys’ quarterback Roger Staubach threw a winning, miracle pass to wide receiver Drew Pearson. Staubach said that when he threw the ball to Pearson, “I closed my eyes and said a Hail Mary.” This play…