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Chris Rock Rocked It

By Bobby Martin

So if you were Chris Rock, what would you have done?  This has been one of the biggest topics of discussion in the country this week.  I would like to weigh in on this.  I think Chris Rock rocked it.

Here’s why.  Restraint demonstrates much more strength and power than retaliation.  He didn’t even raise his hands.  And he didn’t say anything he would have to take back.  One commentator on Fox News, who happens to be black and in the same age range as Chris and Will, said something to the effect that if someone ever hit him, he’d fire right back.  That’s where he draws the line.

I honestly don’t know how I would have responded in the heat of the moment like that.  I grew up a fighter.  If you’ve ever seen me, you’d say, what class, feather weight?  But where I’m from, we had a pecking order regarding who was the toughest.  I eventually learned that’s not how you gain people’s respect.  I still have to watch my temper.

This incident was good in one way.  It got people thinking and talking.  So who should we emulate?  If you know me, you know that I’m a Jesus follower.  If you’re not, you are more than welcome here and I’m so very glad you read these.  Jesus was an excellent example of power and peace coexisting.  He said this, “I tell you, do not resist an evil person.  If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.” (Matthew 5:39)  So in answer to the popular question, “what would Jesus do?”  Chris Rock did it.  What he said to provoke the attack is another discussion, but in the heat of the moment, I would give Chris the vote as to who was stronger.

Here are the details of what happened.

I’m guest blogging today; my wife is the relationship coach. I think her advice about how happy couples interact is an appropriate thing to read today.

5 Comments

  • Kathy

    Yes, Bobby, the Chris Rock/Will Smith event has, apart from the war in Ukraine, dominated the news all week. And as more people weigh in on the subject – the focus has rightfully shifted to Chris Rock. I so admire and respect his response to the incident – both at the time, and over the past few days. You captured it perfectly with the phrase “power and peace coexisting.” Indeed, the voices in the immediate aftermath attempting to defend Smith for totally inexcusable behavior are being replaced by condemnation – as well as words of support, respect, and admiration for Chris Rock. I don’t know if C Rock is a Jesus follower, but he is in the most sincere way – by imitation….. Another aspect that makes C Rock’s experience so remarkable, and his response so powerful, is that he was left all alone to handle a very public assault. Smith, larger and angry, walks on stage and lands a hard blow to his face. No one came to his aide. Where was security? Smith should have been physically removed from the auditorium, immediately. C Rock displayed remarkable grace, composure – power and peace.

    • Bobby

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Kathy. Well said. And I agree, his actions (or lack thereof) spoke louder than any words could have.

  • Carolyn Burns

    I totally agree with what my big brother said. I watched It unfold and had the same comment. His reaction and self control was almost unbelievable. I am not sure how many people (excluding my brothers of course) could do the same in such an unpredictable violent moment and then continue on like a professional. Kudos – Rock on!!!

  • Deb

    Well done, Bob. You articulated the underlining message that was the important lesson to be learned. I heard a clip from an interview Rock did several years ago … he spoke about his youth and that he learned at an early age the wisdom in remaining calm and extending grace in difficult circumstances – he made a practice out of resisting an excuse to fight back. Given what happened at the Oscars it was powerful confirmation that he was sincere.
    I read this afternoon that Denzel Washington went right to Smith, spoke to him as a friend, and prayed with him and Bradley Cooper. Powerful example of grace and love.
    Excellent job, Robert G!

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