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    Chris Rock Rocked It

    By Bobby Martin So if you were Chris Rock, what would you have done?  This has been one of the biggest topics of discussion in the country this week.  I would like to weigh in on this.  I think Chris Rock rocked it. Here’s why.  Restraint demonstrates much more strength and power than retaliation.  He didn’t even raise his hands.  And he didn’t say anything he would have to take back.  One commentator on Fox News, who happens to be black and in the same age range as Chris and Will, said something to the effect that if someone ever hit him, he’d fire right back.  That’s where he draws…

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    Turn Down the Noise for a Happy New Year

    This is an article from last year, with a few revisions. I think it’s worth re-sharing. The United Nations declared 2021 as the International Year of Peace and Trust. How do you think we did? I think we can do better. It’s up to us, really. I’d like to suggest that in order to do that, we turn down the noise and have a truly happy new year. I have learned that the things to which we give our attention set our direction. And our direction determines our destination. I Learned This Lesson Early My husband, Bobby Martin, is a professional drag racer. He drives the race car, and one…

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    Turn Down the Noise For a Peaceful 2021

    The United Nations declared 2021 as the International Year of Peace and Trust. And as the International Year of Fruits and Vegetables.  This “new year’s resolution” was profound for a hot minute, but now I feel like an investigative journalist on minutia. I like fruits and vegetables; they’re good for me and all. But if we’re measuring those against peace and trust, the P&T weighs in like a hippopotamus on a seesaw. I’m looking for a peaceful 2021. I have learned that the things to which we give our attention set our direction. And our direction determines our destination. I Learned This Lesson Early My husband, Bobby Martin, is a…

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    A Season of Giving Grace to Others

    An acquaintance of ours started a non-profit movement offering free yard signs reminding us to love one another. He posted it on our county’s social media page…and the war began. Within a short time, I counted 102 comments. Ninety-eight of the remarks were fighting with him or with each other.  Ironic? Yes. Surprising? Big sigh. No. As I read these ugly comments on social media, I was insulted on behalf of this good man. Why the anger? Why aren’t we extending grace to others?  At the same time, his responses – both measured and kind – filled me with hope instead of feeling overwhelmed by the inhumanity of the masses. I…