• Relationship Advice

    Time Stand Still

    Have you ever been in a season of life that’s so tough that you just want every day to pass quickly? Or, the place that you’re in is so busy that your life feels like it’s on autopilot? We’ve all been in one or both of these places in life. We’re rushing, rushing, rushing. Missing out on so much. And that’s just not fair. Life is beautiful. It’s meant to be savored – ups, downs, and in-betweens.  We should want time to stand still. One of the seasons of my life that I hoped time would pass quickly was when we were trying to have children. I focused my thoughts…

  • Relationship Advice

    Wild Abandon

    I dance to the Nancy Sinatra record in the living room of my aunt’s house. I have no clue what this song is about, but I love it! My cousin Barbie and I stomp around the room, me in my cowboy boots. She laughs as we sing and stomp. I spin circles in the space between the chair and the brown couch until I fall over. When the record stops, Barbie starts it again. And I stomp. And dance with wild abandon. These boots are made for walkin’ And that’s just what they’ll do One of these days, these boots are gonna walk all over you Ya I like the…

  • Relationship Advice,  Relationship Advice for Men

    Uncommon Romance

    I love romantic books and movies — I’m the Hey Get A Room girl, right? My husband has offered romantic gestures, even grand ones, in the traditional ways: flowers, expensive dinners, candlelight, and candy. Those things are lovely. I enjoy them immensely. But, other men have offered me many of those same gestures. (Obviously, before The One came along.)  Those should be part of the repertoire if you’re doing dating right. I expound in Classic Rules For Dating In The Modern World. But, men and women who want to earn their Advanced Certification in Romance? Keep doing that stuff. But add those things that show that you get them. Know…

  • Communication in Marriage,  Relationship Advice

    Like a Bowling Ball

    Did you know that race cars are like bowling balls? Yeah, me neither. At least not until my race car driver husband explained it to me one day early on in our race career. I trusted him on that, and well, it turned out OK. Trusting one’s life partner is just as important as counting on one’s racing partner. Getting married triggers significant shifts in your world. Now, instead of being the sole master of your universe, you’re sharing that space with your soul mate. The two of you must learn how to navigate life as a team and figure out ways to make strong decisions together. And when time…