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Work on Yourself Before Getting Into a Relationship
I love romance and everything that goes with it. Hallmark movies. Romance novels. Rom-Coms. Oh yes, I love Rom-Coms. But. And this is a BIG but. These purveyors of romance all stop at the best part – the essential part. The actual relationship! I worry sometimes that too much emphasis is placed on the wedding day, but not the marriage itself. Seriously, one spans one day; the other is the rest of your life. Wouldn’t it make sense to prepare for your future relationship now? No relationship will be perfect because it’s made up of imperfect humans. But, everyone is worthy of love regardless of their self-esteem or baggage. We…
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Until Death Do Us Part
My Dad died since we spoke last. It’s been two weeks, two days, and nine hours since I received the call. I’ve spent a lot of time pondering my Dad’s life and what it meant. It’s funny how you don’t think about those things in everyday life. Well, until death do us part. It’s a victorious story, and particularly relevant with Valentine’s Day upon us. I’ve written about the moment when I met my husband’s parents at age eighteen. I’ve explained how it marked me forever because it showed me what a healthy marriage looked like for the very first time, and it set me on a path toward achieving…
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10 Marriage Preparation Tips You Must Know
As a thirty-three year happily married woman who has counseled unhappy couples, here’s a marriage preparation tip: don’t overrate making a commitment in a relationship. But because I want you to be happy, I’m going to share some positive relationship advice. If you’re single and want to get married, by all means, enjoy your singleness while preparing mentally for marriage. Regardless of your relationship status, these tips will prepare you for a better life. And, who doesn’t want that? #1. Get to Know Your Spouse Back in 1991, my husband, Bobby Martin, and I formed a professional Top Alcohol Funny Car drag racing operation culminating in an NHRA US Nationals…
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Is it Time to Break Up?
We watch scary movies and know when to shout at the dumb girl who goes into the basement to investigate that noise. We revel in her stupidity and feel superior. If it were us, we assure ourselves, we wouldn’t be so foolish. Sure, we would. Funny thing about life, it’s so easy to view it from the outside. Love can be the same, don’t you think? Others look at our horror movie and just know we need to end the relationship. But we don’t know and we just continue down the steps to the basement. But, is it time to break up? I’ve ended more…
