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How To Show Respect to Your Partner
My husband is a champion drag racer. He’s driven fast cars. Dangerous cars. And I’ve worried. This career we’ve traversed together has stretched our marriage in difficult ways. And in profoundly satisfying ways. Every day felt like a new test as we climbed the ladder with new expectations and no time to get comfortable before the next one arose. One of my biggest challenges, maybe you can relate, has been how to show my husband respect. It’s not that I’ve been outright disrespectful. But, love without expectations seems to be easier to understand and accomplish. But it’s taxing to trust and respect each other, especially on roads you’ve never traveled…
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Assertiveness and the Four Styles of Communication
“Never mind. It’s fine.” This common response never actually means that someone is really fine, right? According to a recent study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, poor communication is why relationships fail. But wait! I thought the reason why do most relationships end was money, sex, and lack of engagement? Well, yes, those things count too, but communication is key in marriage. Active listening to your partner in a way that cements agreement, the banter leading to fun and attraction, the long conversations that instill trust and intimacy – all of these are examples of effective marital communication. Good communication in marriage is the oil that lubricates the…
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Advertise Your Man
There’s a great old blues song called “Woman Be Wise” written in 1967 by iconic Blues singer Sippie Wallace. It depicts an older, wiser woman offering advice to younger ones about how to hold onto their men. Hey, I give relationship advice and I sing the blues! I really do love this song. It’s street-wise, it’s earthy and makes me and my husband laugh every time we hear it. But, is it actually wise? Well, (sorry Sippie) I don’t think so. Give a listen and see what you think. This live performance is a rare treat with Sippie and other Blues greats Bonnie Raitt and Dr. John on Letterman. You…
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Two Worst Days in Bed
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Two Worst Days in Bed
Bobby and I have spent the whole day in bed together twice. Neither was for a romantic reason, but both resulted in romance. I’ll share the other story at the end. This time was in 1997 and was the day after one of our worst days racing. When we decided that we were going funny car racing, Bobby called Harry. Harry was an acquaintance at the time but became Bobby’s mentor and in many ways, just like a dad. He was an NHRA national record holder and knew his stuff. He gave Bobby advice like “Sit in a funny car with the body down first. You’ll know right away if you…
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