• Relationship Advice

    Be fun. Be close.

    Singer Van Morrison contends that All Work and No Play  makes you… really boring.  Haha! I agree with him. One of the things I love about my 37-year relationship with my husband is that he is still fascinating to me. He’s really intelligent and he’s bold. So, his thoughts are interesting and unlike other peoples’ thoughts. And, he has not stopped striving for things. But also – he’s reaaaaaly fun. Because we’re so close, we don’t have to be doing much at all to have fun. However, finding new innovative things to do together keeps us close. And out of a rut. It invigorates our love! I encourage you to…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Dear Younger Me

    Today, Bobby and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. According to statistics, we have entered a unique, exclusive club: one for couples whose marriages have not only lasted longer than most, but have become even stronger as the years went by. Through every single year of our marriage, people have commented on our strong physical connection and affection toward one another. In the earlier years of our marriage, after people would tell us to get a room (yep, that’s where the blog name comes from), they inevitably would follow it up with “Well, just wait until you’ve been married  ___  years.” Wow…thanks for the insight.  It was truly disconcerting to hear this over…

  • Relationship Advice

    Freezing at Five

    We were recently invited to a friend’s house for a picnic, and decided to go at the last minute. I hadn’t thought about what food I was going to take and I’m not known for keeping it simple. I decided on a dessert that needed ice cream. Sounds fine until I tell you that our friends live 30 miles away, and it was a 98 degree day. Not the best choice? True that. We drove our Challenger SRT, my husband’s pride and joy. I asked him to stop at a grocery store closer to our destination for the ice cream. Bobby assured me that he could make Hulkster (That’s the…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Just Respect

    I kinda fancy myself as being someone who knows a little something about marriage. I think it’s because it’s something I want to know about.  So I study people, I ask questions and I read a lot of books. And, over the years we have counseled several people so I’ve learned from the inside the ways people can get off track and the ways they can turn it back around. That’s a beautiful thing, let me tell you. There really isn’t much that can’t be turned around if both really, really want it. It’s gotten to the point that when I read a book on marriage, there’s not much there…