• Relationships Take Work

    What Story Will You Tell?

    My husband Bobby recently reconnected with his childhood friend Kevin on social media. He read me a post written by Kevin about how he’s managing quarantine. Bobby knew I would be intrigued by it because I’m endlessly interested in relationships and how we navigate our way through them. That’s a fancy way perhaps of saying that I’m nosy about people’s personal business. In my defense, I do share some pretty personal business of my own in this blog so you get equal opportunity. I’ve been thinking a lot about this extraordinary situation we’re in and how we’ll tell the stories of it to our kids and their kids. We are…

  • Relationship Advice

    Be fun. Be close.

    Singer Van Morrison contends that All Work and No Play  makes you… really boring.  Haha! I agree with him. One of the things I love about my 37-year relationship with my husband is that he is still fascinating to me. He’s really intelligent and he’s bold. So, his thoughts are interesting and unlike other peoples’ thoughts. And, he has not stopped striving for things. But also – he’s reaaaaaly fun. Because we’re so close, we don’t have to be doing much at all to have fun. However, finding new innovative things to do together keeps us close. And out of a rut. It invigorates our love! I encourage you to…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Dear Younger Me

    Today, Bobby and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. According to statistics, we have entered a unique, exclusive club: one for couples whose marriages have not only lasted longer than most, but have become even stronger as the years went by. Through every single year of our marriage, people have commented on our strong physical connection and affection toward one another. In the earlier years of our marriage, after people would tell us to get a room (yep, that’s where the blog name comes from), they inevitably would follow it up with “Well, just wait until you’ve been married  ___  years.” Wow…thanks for the insight.  It was truly disconcerting to hear this over…

  • Relationship Advice

    Freezing at Five

    We were recently invited to a friend’s house for a picnic, and decided to go at the last minute. I hadn’t thought about what food I was going to take and I’m not known for keeping it simple. I decided on a dessert that needed ice cream. Sounds fine until I tell you that our friends live 30 miles away, and it was a 98 degree day. Not the best choice? True that. We drove our Challenger SRT, my husband’s pride and joy. I asked him to stop at a grocery store closer to our destination for the ice cream. Bobby assured me that he could make Hulkster (That’s the…