Hey, Get a Room

“Hey, get a room”.

These words have been said to me and my husband, Bobby, literally dozens of times over the years. I’m a modest woman. I don’t dress or speak provocatively in front of others, and we have never crossed any line beyond a quick kiss on the lips in public.

So what prompts this consistent and common response from people?

I don’t know. I’m always a little surprised. So I did what I always do when I don’t know something. I asked my husband.

He didn’t know either.

So, I’ve been mulling it over, and here’s what I think.

Most people don’t speak sweetly to each other after the initial blush of the relationship. They don’t look into each other’s eyes, touch one another’s hand and do all of the things that they used to do. I remember overhearing two women in my former workplace having a conversation about how unrealistic a book was that they were reading. They were making fun of this book relentlessly. The line that sticks most in my mind from their conversation is “No one says ‘darling’ anymore”!

Oh. Really? We do. Every day.

Think back to when you first knew you were in love with him. He was – is – THE ONE. Didn’t you use a certain tone? Speak certain sweet words? Touch his face or his hand? Do something that showed sweet affection? Have you stopped? Why? WHY?

My husband says that he loves my voice and the way I speak to him. He has saved several of my voice mails over the years and likes to listen to them. I confess that I have saved some of his, too. What makes a person do that?

Because it matters. He loves your voice. He fell in love with it. The words you said to him made him feel a certain way about himself that no one else has ever been able to duplicate.

So, soften your voice. Touch his face. Call him Sweetheart.

Then, get a room.