I Don’t Speak Spanish: How To Speak Love in the Way They Hear It

I spent much of my time walking the hallways of Big Beaver Falls High School trying to avoid my teacher, Mr. Evans.  “Senor” Evans was a perfectly nice man.  But, he was my Spanish teacher, and anytime he would see one of his students in the hallway, he would try to talk to us in Spanish.  And well, the only thing I knew how to say in Spanish was “No hablo Espanol.” (I don’t speak Spanish.)Have you ever had that same feeling in your relationships? I read a great book by Gary Chapman called “The Five Love Languages.”   Dr. Chapman teaches that every person has a love language.

And if the person who loves us shows it in ours, we feel more loved by them.  But, a person’s tendency is to try to show their love in their own language.  The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

A lot of people have a primary and secondary one. Bobby’s are Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. So, a Saturday morning spent together in which I spend time encouraging him is just right.

What is your partner’s love language?  If you don’t know, no worries. It’s easy enough to find out.  You can ask them.  Or, get the book. It’s inexpensive enough.  I have also included this link to the online profile tool.  It’s actually really fun to do together then talk about!

Do you know there is a Magic Ratio that’s 90% accurate in predicting your relationship’s success? It has to do with the above. Can’t guess? Read this.

The Secret Of Love