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Gaze an Eagle Blind: How a Look Can Work on Your Relationship
My husband does this thing. And he may not realize it, but he’s working on the relationship. He stops everything he’s doing, pulls me close…and just looks into my eyes. He doesn’t say anything…he just looks at me with this fervent – even reverent – look. Nothing else in this world makes me feel more loved than that look. The link between love and looking has long been the stuff of song. Can’t take my eyes off of you… I only have eyes for you… My eyes adored you. And Shakespeare himself wrote of the power of a loving look in his play, Love’s Labour’s Lost. He said that…
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What Story Will You Tell?
My husband Bobby recently reconnected with his childhood friend Kevin on social media. He read me a post written by Kevin about how he’s managing quarantine. Bobby knew I would be intrigued by it because I’m endlessly interested in relationships and how we navigate our way through them. That’s a fancy way perhaps of saying that I’m nosy about people’s personal business. In my defense, I do share some pretty personal business of my own in this blog so you get equal opportunity. I’ve been thinking a lot about this extraordinary situation we’re in and how we’ll tell the stories of it to our kids and their kids. We are…
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Blood Transfusion: How to Avoid Generational Curses
I’m a singer, so song lyrics matter. I’ve been obsessed with John Mayer’s “In The Blood” lately. Yes, obsessed. I’ve listened to it during my 45-minute work commute – on repeat – several times in the last two weeks. “Several times” is as close as I’ll want to get to revealing my level of craziness about songs. Now, don’t look at me so loud. You’ve done this. You know you have. This song made me wonder why so many of us repeat our parents’ mistakes. And our grandparents. We let our past cause unnecessary relationship struggles. A friend of mine calls this the Generational Curse. Would you kindly give it…
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Keep Up
It’s inevitable that your partner will change. It’s OK. Keep up. But how? How can you stay close to your spouse throughout the years? The first time I ever laid eyes on my husband was at a club. He DJ’d there, and I was bowled over by him. He had just moved to my hometown three months earlier and his full time job was as Music Director and On Air Personality at our local radio station. He had graduated from Syracuse University with a degree in Television and Radio, and had worked at a few radio stations in New York. The radio station here was a move up for him…
