• Relationship Preparation

    Fools Rush In

    There’s an old song I love called “Fools Rush In.” The first line is “Wise men say only fools rush in.”  The rest of the song is nothing but One. Big. But. So, I’m gonna stop there.  (But if you don’t know the song, click the link! It’s so romantic…Ahem. OK, not now. I’m trying to make a point here.) There’s a reason why a wise man would say not to rush into a marriage. He knows a few things. We should listen because after all it’s been established that he’s wise. If Elvis said it (he recorded one of the first versions of this song), it has to be…

  • Saving Relationship

    The Importance of Personal Accountability in Your Relationship

      I’m really concerned about all these Covid-19 divorces happening worldwide. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, and the alarming rate at which this is happening is consistently rising. The percentage is even higher for second marriages. Perhaps there needs to be more of a desire for personal accountability in marriage and less blame in relationships. Why does a husband or wife show up testifying, “Not My Fault” in so many divorce cases? And if nobody is responsible for a failed relationship, then how do you hold someone accountable in a relationship so it can work? As a relationship expert who counsels numerous Christian couples and families with…

  • Relationships Take Work

    You Can Do This! Encouraging Each Other To Meet Your Potential

    This blog is proof that my husband can talk me into anything. I was sitting on the couch reading one evening, and he started the conversation. Here’s how it went: Him:   You should write a book.  Her:     Whaaaat? I can’t write a book! Him:     Sure you can. How many books have you read in your life? A thousand?  Her:      That’s crazy and not the same thing at all. I can’t write a book.    Two days later: Him:       You should write a book.  Her:         I can’t write a book. That’s crazy talk.  Him:           Two more days later: …

  • Relationships Take Work

    Get On The Same Side

    When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row.  Ann was from Durham, North Carolina,  and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…