• Relationships Take Work

    Get On The Same Side

    When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row.  Ann was from Durham, North Carolina,  and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…

  • Relationship Advice,  Relationship Preparation,  Relationships Take Work

    Do You Have a Transactional Relationship? 4 Ways to Love Without Expectations

    Setting expectations in a relationship is a subject that isn’t talked about much, but it is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. Fortunately, there’s a solution: love without expectation. Let’s drive into what makes a transactional relationship fail and 4 ways to love your partner without expectations. Relationships Take Work At a drag race my husband and I were sponsoring, a businessman’s wife watched as one drag racer Kyle tore apart the bottom end, checked and replaced bearings. She observed how Mike, another racer took off the valve covers, check the pushrods, and set the valves. She kept her eye on yet a third racer, Larry who tore…

  • Relationship Preparation

    I Want a Jerry Springer Kind of Love?

    Why oh why do we love bad boys? Why do we fixate on people who are not good for us? I say “Bad Boys,” but the same thing is true for toxic women. Has this ever happened to you? Is it happening now?   If you had to describe your relationship, what words would you use? Companions, useful helpmates, friends, partners, confidantes?  Passionate, involved, attached, warm, romantic? Dangerous, fiery, destructive, addictive, unhealthy, out of control? If your relationship falls under the last category then yeah, you know what I’m talking about. Immediately before I met my husband, I was involved with a toxic man. It was exciting! I was so infatuated…

  • Relationship Advice

    You Make Loving Fun

    One of the things I love about my life with Bobby is how much fun I have with him. He has a witty, dry humor that sneaks up on me. We laugh A LOT together. All that laughing adds up to a great quality of life for us. The person who you can laugh with becomes the one you want to spend time with, and the one you can’t wait to call when something happens. They become your bestie. Being besties is a great foundation for your relationship. I thought about the fun we have and what I have learned over the years about it. Decide your way into fun.…