• Relationship Preparation

    I Want a Jerry Springer Kind of Love?

    Why oh why do we love bad boys? Why do we fixate on people who are not good for us? I say “Bad Boys,” but the same thing is true for toxic women. Has this ever happened to you? Is it happening now?   If you had to describe your relationship, what words would you use? Companions, useful helpmates, friends, partners, confidantes?  Passionate, involved, attached, warm, romantic? Dangerous, fiery, destructive, addictive, unhealthy, out of control? If your relationship falls under the last category then yeah, you know what I’m talking about. Immediately before I met my husband, I was involved with a toxic man. It was exciting! I was so infatuated…

  • Relationship Advice

    You Make Loving Fun

    One of the things I love about my life with Bobby is how much fun I have with him. He has a witty, dry humor that sneaks up on me. We laugh A LOT together. All that laughing adds up to a great quality of life for us. The person who you can laugh with becomes the one you want to spend time with, and the one you can’t wait to call when something happens. They become your bestie. Being besties is a great foundation for your relationship. I thought about the fun we have and what I have learned over the years about it. Decide your way into fun.…

  • Relationship Advice for Women

    Healing Rain On Barren Land – My Story of Infertility

    I always dreamed of being married and having children. My husband had similar dreams. Once Bobby and I married, we waited to start a family. Our goal was to further our careers. Racing is an all-consuming passion, and it takes from you as much as you give it. Bobby was passionately pursuing his dream – the one that God gave him as a young child. I essentially had two jobs – my job in the corporate world and as Business Manager for the racing operation. We delayed parenting, but finally came the day when we agreed to put aside the birth control. The months and years passed. No baby. I…

  • Relationship Trust & Loyalty

    Two Worst Days in Bed

    Bobby and I have spent the whole day in bed together twice. Neither was for a romantic reason, but both resulted in romance. I’ll share the other story at the end. This time was in 1997 and was the day after one of our worst days racing. When we decided that we were going funny car racing, Bobby called Harry. Harry was an acquaintance at the time but became Bobby’s mentor and in many ways, just like a dad. He was an NHRA national record holder and knew his stuff. He gave Bobby advice like “Sit in a funny car with the body down first. You’ll know right away if you…