• Communication in Marriage

    Just Say You’re Sorry

    I love Chris Stapleton. Before we go on in this relationship, if you don’t love Chris Stapleton, I don’t know if we can be friends. How I feel about his singing is past the point of love – something that transcends it, something indescribable, something there will never be ample words for. Haha! OK… that’s extra. Even for me. My new fave song of his, which is co-written and sung with Pink, is “Just Say I’m Sorry.” Now, that’s a message I can get behind. It’s a plea to one’s lover to put their pride aside and live up to their mistakes. The lyrics are simple and so wise. If…

  • Communication in Marriage,  Relationship Advice

    How To Write a Love Letter

    My husband Bobby has offered numerous gestures of love over our 30+ years of marriage. But there has never been anything that meant more to me than his love letters. Is there a gift that could offer more than a love letter? Think about it. A letter from a loved one is from the one you love. It’s unique to you, and your relationship, deeply personal, and the effort alone shows how much they care. Because I know what a Big Deal this is, I’m going to share how to write a love letter. First, confession time. I have never written a love letter. But, I have perfect examples from Bobby…

  • Communication in Marriage,  Relationship Advice

    Like a Bowling Ball

    Did you know that race cars are like bowling balls? Yeah, me neither. At least not until my race car driver husband explained it to me one day early on in our race career. I trusted him on that, and well, it turned out OK. Trusting one’s life partner is just as important as counting on one’s racing partner. Getting married triggers significant shifts in your world. Now, instead of being the sole master of your universe, you’re sharing that space with your soul mate. The two of you must learn how to navigate life as a team and figure out ways to make strong decisions together. And when time…

  • Communication in Marriage,  Relationship Advice

    Love is a battlefield. But it doesn’t have to be.

    Love is a battlefield. There. I said it. But it doesn’t always need to be. Is it annoying when your partner throws their socks on the floor next to the laundry basket every night? Sure, maybe. Is that as bad as their tendency to speak poorly about you to their friends? Almost certainly not. Some issues in a relationship merit attention, even serious discussion with your partner; others don’t. The difficulty arises when you have to decipher between the two. The internet is full of specific lists counseling us on all the things we must talk about and get right in our relationships. The fact of the matter is, I…