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Help, I Need Somebody: When To Seek Marriage Counseling
Have you been wondering if you need relationship counseling? Lots of people do. You’re not alone, Friend. Bobby and I have counseled many over the years, and are always humbled and honored to do so. As I ponder these many conversations, tears and triumphs, I have learned some lessons. In my opinion, your best bet is to seek Marriage Mentoring way early in the relationship. Marriage Mentoring is proactive and seeks to coach new couples through the ups and downs of new relationships. Do you agree that it’s better to prevent something from happening instead of fixing it afterward? This is a fantastic thing to do! Many churches offer really…
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The Importance of Personal Accountability in Your Relationship
I’m really concerned about all these Covid-19 divorces happening worldwide. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, and the alarming rate at which this is happening is consistently rising. The percentage is even higher for second marriages. Perhaps there needs to be more of a desire for personal accountability in marriage and less blame in relationships. Why does a husband or wife show up testifying, “Not My Fault” in so many divorce cases? And if nobody is responsible for a failed relationship, then how do you hold someone accountable in a relationship so it can work? As a relationship expert who counsels numerous Christian couples and families with…
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Get On The Same Side
When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row. Ann was from Durham, North Carolina, and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…
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I Want a Jerry Springer Kind of Love?
Why oh why do we love bad boys? Why do we fixate on people who are not good for us? I say “Bad Boys,” but the same thing is true for toxic women. Has this ever happened to you? Is it happening now? If you had to describe your relationship, what words would you use? Companions, useful helpmates, friends, partners, confidantes? Passionate, involved, attached, warm, romantic? Dangerous, fiery, destructive, addictive, unhealthy, out of control? If your relationship falls under the last category then yeah, you know what I’m talking about. Immediately before I met my husband, I was involved with a toxic man. It was exciting! I was so infatuated…