• Saving Relationship

    The Importance of Personal Accountability in Your Relationship

      I’m really concerned about all these Covid-19 divorces happening worldwide. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce, and the alarming rate at which this is happening is consistently rising. The percentage is even higher for second marriages. Perhaps there needs to be more of a desire for personal accountability in marriage and less blame in relationships. Why does a husband or wife show up testifying, “Not My Fault” in so many divorce cases? And if nobody is responsible for a failed relationship, then how do you hold someone accountable in a relationship so it can work? As a relationship expert who counsels numerous Christian couples and families with…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Get On The Same Side

    When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row.  Ann was from Durham, North Carolina,  and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…

  • Relationship Preparation

    I Want a Jerry Springer Kind of Love?

    Why oh why do we love bad boys? Why do we fixate on people who are not good for us? I say “Bad Boys,” but the same thing is true for toxic women. Has this ever happened to you? Is it happening now?   If you had to describe your relationship, what words would you use? Companions, useful helpmates, friends, partners, confidantes?  Passionate, involved, attached, warm, romantic? Dangerous, fiery, destructive, addictive, unhealthy, out of control? If your relationship falls under the last category then yeah, you know what I’m talking about. Immediately before I met my husband, I was involved with a toxic man. It was exciting! I was so infatuated…

  • Relationship Advice for Women

    Healing Rain On Barren Land – My Story of Infertility

    I always dreamed of being married and having children. My husband had similar dreams. Once Bobby and I married, we waited to start a family. Our goal was to further our careers. Racing is an all-consuming passion, and it takes from you as much as you give it. Bobby was passionately pursuing his dream – the one that God gave him as a young child. I essentially had two jobs – my job in the corporate world and as Business Manager for the racing operation. We delayed parenting, but finally came the day when we agreed to put aside the birth control. The months and years passed. No baby. I…