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You Can Do This! Encouraging Each Other To Meet Your Potential
This blog is proof that my husband can talk me into anything. I was sitting on the couch reading one evening, and he started the conversation. Here’s how it went: Him: You should write a book. Her: Whaaaat? I can’t write a book! Him: Sure you can. How many books have you read in your life? A thousand? Her: That’s crazy and not the same thing at all. I can’t write a book. Two days later: Him: You should write a book. Her: I can’t write a book. That’s crazy talk. Him: Two more days later: …
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Get On The Same Side
When C.P. Ellis died, a family-only memorial service was held. Ann Atwater, the only friend who had been invited to the service, arrived early and sat in the front row. Ann was from Durham, North Carolina, and was a major force within the country’s civil rights movement. She was infamous for her fiery, tough personality. She was soon approached by a red-faced employee of the funeral home. He whispered, “This service is for Mr. Clairborne Ellis.” Ann nodded and said, “Yes, I know.” There was an awkward pause as the man cleared his throat. “I’m sorry, but the service is for family only.” Ann replied, “I know that, too.” Another…
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Do You Have a Transactional Relationship? 4 Ways to Love Without Expectations
Setting expectations in a relationship is a subject that isn’t talked about much, but it is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. Fortunately, there’s a solution: love without expectation. Let’s drive into what makes a transactional relationship fail and 4 ways to love your partner without expectations. Relationships Take Work At a drag race my husband and I were sponsoring, a businessman’s wife watched as one drag racer Kyle tore apart the bottom end, checked and replaced bearings. She observed how Mike, another racer took off the valve covers, check the pushrods, and set the valves. She kept her eye on yet a third racer, Larry who tore…
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Sacred Saturdays
I attended a wedding in which the pastor encouraged the bride and groom to get their PhD Degree in the other. It struck me immediately that Bobby and I have this kind of intimacy, and that it has significantly contributed to our happiness. I think the benefits are: We are more understanding and patient with each other’s weaknesses and see and appreciate each other’s strengths. We know the buttons NOT to push which reduces our interpersonal conflict. It is fun and relaxing to have our best friend right in our own home. Being known by someone is good for our health. No, really! Sex is much more likely to happen…
