• Relationship Advice

    Be fun. Be close.

    Singer Van Morrison contends that All Work and No Play  makes you… really boring.  Haha! I agree with him. One of the things I love about my 37-year relationship with my husband is that he is still fascinating to me. He’s really intelligent and he’s bold. So, his thoughts are interesting and unlike other peoples’ thoughts. And, he has not stopped striving for things. But also – he’s reaaaaaly fun. Because we’re so close, we don’t have to be doing much at all to have fun. However, finding new innovative things to do together keeps us close. And out of a rut. It invigorates our love! I encourage you to…

  • Life Advice

    Being Faithful in a Relationship: What Ari Mahler the Jewish Pittsburgh Nurse Teaches Us

    On October 27, 2018, Robert Bowers was charged with the Tree of Life massacre. He had walked into The Tree of Life Synagogue in the Squirrel Hill neighborhood of Pittsburgh with an AR-15 and three handguns yelling “All Jews must die! Death to the Jews!” And tragically, eleven did. Robert Bowers was critically injured and transported to Pittsburgh’s Allegheny General Hospital for treatment. He continued his verbal rampage at the hospital’s ER department. I can’t even imagine that scene.   Here’s how the President of the hospital, Dr. Jeff Cohen of Allegheny General, described it. He’s Jewish by the way. This heart-rending story received worldwide coverage, but what happened next…

  • Life Advice

    How to Show Your Partner Unconditional Love

    In July of 1961, the Green Bay Packers football team was gathered for the first day of training camp. The previous season had ended with a painful defeat when they threw away a lead late in the 4th quarter and lost the NFL Championship to the Philadelphia Eagles. The off-season was brutal, and the players were looking forward to focusing on new things they could do to help them win a championship. Their coach, Vince Lombardi, had a different idea. “Gentlemen,” he said, holding a pigskin in his right hand, “this is a football.”  Lombardi was coaching a group of professional athletes who had come within minutes the previous season of…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Dear Younger Me

    Today, Bobby and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. According to statistics, we have entered a unique, exclusive club: one for couples whose marriages have not only lasted longer than most, but have become even stronger as the years went by. Through every single year of our marriage, people have commented on our strong physical connection and affection toward one another. In the earlier years of our marriage, after people would tell us to get a room (yep, that’s where the blog name comes from), they inevitably would follow it up with “Well, just wait until you’ve been married  ___  years.” Wow…thanks for the insight.  It was truly disconcerting to hear this over…