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Chasing the Dodgers: Handling Conflict When You’re Different
Conflict. Ugh. Just the sound of that word makes us cringe, right? But know this. If you can learn how to manage it well, conflict will help your relationship. Yes, make it better because both unaddressed issues and bloody battles are death to your relationship. One might just take longer to make it die than the other. So, let’s figure this out. First, there are really two kinds of people when it comes to conflict: Chasers and Dodgers. Both have good points when it comes to conflict, but both have the capacity to really screw it up, too. It’s important to identify who you both are so the road can…
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Flying Underwear: Is Your Issue Worth Fighting About?
Conflict in any relationship is inevitable and can even be healthy. But it’s only healthy if addressed well. Otherwise, conflict can lead to brutal fighting. Or even worse, distance in the relationship and a cold, cold chill. I have experienced both in relationships, and it’s. not. good. This article is the first of a three-part series. I think we first have to think through when we do indeed need to address something. Then, we’ll talk about extending grace and healthy ways to address issues. Not everything is something you should be willing to “die on the hill for.” Have you heard this saying? It’s a war metaphor. It means that…
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How to Communicate Better in Marriage
What does nagging do to a relationship? The more you fuss, remind and nudge, the more you push your partner away. In my work for a Facilities Management Company, very large corporations, hospitals, and universities trust us to manage everything related to their buildings. When a leak is reported, we treat it as an emergency no matter the degree of intensity. We know that even the slow, steady drip of a tiny leak can cause destruction. Just like the nagging in a relationship. And yet, nagging wife syndrome may make women feel they have control and that their communication is good. But a constant and persistent “drip” or “nudging” can…
