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10 Marriage Preparation Tips You Must Know
As a thirty-three year happily married woman who has counseled unhappy couples, here’s a marriage preparation tip: don’t overrate making a commitment in a relationship. But because I want you to be happy, I’m going to share some positive relationship advice. If you’re single and want to get married, by all means, enjoy your singleness while preparing mentally for marriage. Regardless of your relationship status, these tips will prepare you for a better life. And, who doesn’t want that? #1. Get to Know Your Spouse Back in 1991, my husband, Bobby Martin, and I formed a professional Top Alcohol Funny Car drag racing operation culminating in an NHRA US Nationals…
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Is it Time to Break Up?
We watch scary movies and know when to shout at the dumb girl who goes into the basement to investigate that noise. We revel in her stupidity and feel superior. If it were us, we assure ourselves, we wouldn’t be so foolish. Sure, we would. Funny thing about life, it’s so easy to view it from the outside. Love can be the same, don’t you think? Others look at our horror movie and just know we need to end the relationship. But we don’t know and we just continue down the steps to the basement. But, is it time to break up? I’ve ended more…
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How to Save Your Relationship When It’s Falling Apart
Not getting what you need from a relationship is a real struggle. And over time, this is one of the main reasons why relationships fail. Why a relationship fails can be anything. Maybe he had an affair. Maybe you did. Maybe money is tight and you worry all the time. He is just not holding up his end of the bargain. It was supposed to be different. You don’t talk anymore or you fight too much. Perhaps you are feeling alone in your relationship in every way. Perhaps you started out strong, but things have led to you just not feeling the love anymore. She’s changed and won’t sleep in…
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The Sound of Silence
Early in our relationship, I often gave my husband The Silent Treatment when angry or hurt. My passive-aggressive versus Bobby’s assertive communication style confused, angered, and wounded him. And he was having none of it! He would sit right in front of me and not leave until we talked the issue out. I wasn’t used to that kind of forward-facing communication, it made me uncomfortable, and in those early moments, I thought he was a bully. I shake my head now, remembering those interactions. Me, arms crossed and pouting while doing Cirque du Soleil-like contortions to avoid looking at him. Him putting his face directly into mine and repeatedly asking…
