• Communication in Marriage,  Relationship Advice

    Love is a battlefield. But it doesn’t have to be.

    Love is a battlefield. There. I said it. But it doesn’t always need to be. Is it annoying when your partner throws their socks on the floor next to the laundry basket every night? Sure, maybe. Is that as bad as their tendency to speak poorly about you to their friends? Almost certainly not. Some issues in a relationship merit attention, even serious discussion with your partner; others don’t. The difficulty arises when you have to decipher between the two. The internet is full of specific lists counseling us on all the things we must talk about and get right in our relationships. The fact of the matter is, I…

  • Life Advice,  Relationship Advice

    How To Stop Feeling Anxious Fast

    It was April 2020, and my husband and I followed our usual morning routine of eating breakfast, watching the news, and getting ready for work. Suddenly, I started feeling sick; I was dizzy and breathing hard. I was just overwhelmed with anxiety. The news endlessly talked of the new virus and the number of cases and deaths. I was worried about my aging and vulnerable parents. On top of that, I was a key player on an important project at work, and a leader a ka-jillion levels above me had looked me in the eye the previous day and told me not to $#*& it up. I’m accustomed to pressure,…

  • Life Advice,  Relationship Advice for Men

    Chris Rock Rocked It

    By Bobby Martin So if you were Chris Rock, what would you have done?  This has been one of the biggest topics of discussion in the country this week.  I would like to weigh in on this.  I think Chris Rock rocked it. Here’s why.  Restraint demonstrates much more strength and power than retaliation.  He didn’t even raise his hands.  And he didn’t say anything he would have to take back.  One commentator on Fox News, who happens to be black and in the same age range as Chris and Will, said something to the effect that if someone ever hit him, he’d fire right back.  That’s where he draws…

  • Christian relationship advice,  Relationships Take Work

    How to Keep the Spark Alive

    I was blessed to be featured in UpJourney recently; I contributed to an article entitled What Happens When You Meet Your Soulmate. Afterward, someone posted an intriguing comment on my social media about it. I love all of your comments, and we read every one, no matter where you post them. His statement got me thinking about how to keep the spark alive in our relationships. So he said: “I don’t really buy the soulmate thing…Maybe a relationship…is like a pair of work boots. Awkward the first couple times you wear them. But just before they are about to go to their eternal reward they get really comfortable.” I laughed really…