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How To Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationship
My husband is a championship-level professional drag racer and licensed in three classes. Here’s a picture of his current ride, a Nostalgia Front Engine “slingshot” Dragster. These race cars push three and a half g’s when they leave the starting line, and push him hard into the seat! They’re so fast that he needs a parachute to stop them. When the parachute blossoms, it causes three and a half g’s and throws his body forward. This force is one reason why very tight seatbelts are necessary. The Science of Parachutes Just like you feel resistance when walking through a pool filled with water, a similar effect can be felt…
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Love is a battlefield. But it doesn’t have to be.
Love is a battlefield. There. I said it. But it doesn’t always need to be. Is it annoying when your partner throws their socks on the floor next to the laundry basket every night? Sure, maybe. Is that as bad as their tendency to speak poorly about you to their friends? Almost certainly not. Some issues in a relationship merit attention, even serious discussion with your partner; others don’t. The difficulty arises when you have to decipher between the two. The internet is full of specific lists counseling us on all the things we must talk about and get right in our relationships. The fact of the matter is, I…
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How To Stop Feeling Anxious Fast
It was April 2020, and my husband and I followed our usual morning routine of eating breakfast, watching the news, and getting ready for work. Suddenly, I started feeling sick; I was dizzy and breathing hard. I was just overwhelmed with anxiety. The news endlessly talked of the new virus and the number of cases and deaths. I was worried about my aging and vulnerable parents. On top of that, I was a key player on an important project at work, and a leader a ka-jillion levels above me had looked me in the eye the previous day and told me not to $#*& it up. I’m accustomed to pressure,…
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She Thinks My Tractor’s Sexy
Hi, I got an email from my husband, Bobby. He said, “So Babes, I was inspired to do a quick blog post for you about how to support your spouse. I hope you like it. I love you, Bobby.” Yes, Darling. I do. I like it. A LOT. Enjoy, Everyone! “She Thinks My Tractor’s Sexy.” Country fan or not, this is a cool song. It’s by Kenny Chesney. It’s a wonderful thing when a couple can share an interest or a passion. In my case, Lori loves my Challenger. She calls it “Hulkster.” There’s actually a good technical reason for this. The car’s engine has several modes, from 4-cylinder MDS…
