• Relationships Take Work

    Dear Younger Me

    Today, Bobby and I celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary. According to statistics, we have entered a unique, exclusive club: one for couples whose marriages have not only lasted longer than most, but have become even stronger as the years went by. Through every single year of our marriage, people have commented on our strong physical connection and affection toward one another. In the earlier years of our marriage, after people would tell us to get a room (yep, that’s where the blog name comes from), they inevitably would follow it up with “Well, just wait until you’ve been married  ___  years.” Wow…thanks for the insight.  It was truly disconcerting to hear this over…

  • Relationships Take Work

    It’s the Little Things

    I love my car – except for one thing. The warning alarm – namely the one that sounds when you don’t yet have your seat belt on – is the most shrill and annoying sound ev-er. Oh no. She doesn’t make a pleasing tone like other American cars. She’s a 2008 Crossfire, and while her body and interior were styled by Chrysler, the rest of the car is European. And unlike American engineers, the German ones are all business. They want us to really, really hear it. Take a quick listen. One morning, my hubby and I were leaving for work and he had backed my car out of the…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Just Respect

    I kinda fancy myself as being someone who knows a little something about marriage. I think it’s because it’s something I want to know about.  So I study people, I ask questions and I read a lot of books. And, over the years we have counseled several people so I’ve learned from the inside the ways people can get off track and the ways they can turn it back around. That’s a beautiful thing, let me tell you. There really isn’t much that can’t be turned around if both really, really want it. It’s gotten to the point that when I read a book on marriage, there’s not much there…

  • Relationships Take Work

    Help, I Need Somebody: When To Seek Marriage Counseling

    Have you been wondering if you need relationship counseling? Lots of people do. You’re not alone, Friend. Bobby and I have counseled many over the years, and are always humbled and honored to do so. As I ponder these many conversations, tears and triumphs, I have learned some lessons. In my opinion, your best bet is to seek Marriage Mentoring way early in the relationship. Marriage Mentoring is proactive and seeks to coach new couples through the ups and downs of new relationships. Do you agree that it’s better to prevent something from happening instead of fixing it afterward? This is a fantastic thing to do! Many churches offer really…